Time to fall in love with yourself

So...Slamma! Aka the Dating Diva went on hiatus for a year and a half. Met this cool artsy guy who loved my kids and seemed to love me. We had all kinds of things in common and we fell in love quick.What attracted me most to him is that he was in a transitional phase in his life. He wanted to make changes and he wanted to settle down. The first six months were a whirlwind of fun and romance. Then he got active in his activities again and suddenly I didn't exist. During Travel Team try out I got a concussion and he didn't even bother to come to the ER. When I talked about my problems the response I got was 'I've got problems too" suddenly he was hanging around single young folks and I didn't matter any more. The phone calls were less and less, the dates were being initiated by me. And he constantly reminded me he didn't want to be my children's father. Dude...like I never asked you to be and I hate to say it, yous make him look pretty decent at this point. I had to beg for him to stay overnight with me during foot surgery and when he finally agreed it was 9pm AFTER he had bought a new car for himself. My child receives a traumatic head injury and he didn't show up for 3 days later.She's still upset about that and it still hurts her feelings. I could slowly but surely feel him pulling away. So finally I asked the question 'where is this going?' because a year ago he wanted to move in with me and then he backed out . He flipped out, cursed me out, got in my face,then told me he never wanted my kids and they were a handful. OUCH. That was when I knew it was over and there was no going back. You can act like an selfish ass to me, but you talk shit about my beautiful and amazing daughters that's when we're done! It was heartbreaking. For me and my kids. His coming around less and less made them feel like he didn't like them, his comments that night confirmed it. In every great love story that ends in tragedy there must always be a lesson. For both parties. I can't speak to what his is, but I know mine. I NEED to fall in love with myself again, because I never deserved to be treated like that. I deserve much much better. A man who is mature and know who he is and where he is going in life. We therapists have this fatal flaw where we want to save people. I wanted to save him, I tried so hard, but ultimately he had to save himself. Only he can heal his wounds and if he chooses to continue to ignore them, I can't have someone like that limping behind me. Healing from this won't be easy. It hasn't been so far. But it will be doable. Every day I feel a little bit better. I'm taking this time for self reflection. What are my goals? What do I need out of a partner, and finally what the hell is wrong with being alone? Don't need a man and never did. So the big lesson I learned is to stop settling for things in my life. Love myself enough to know I deserve the best. So I have decided to take the next 6 months off dating and focus on my kids, friends,family, Derby and my job. To work on loving me..because I still believe I'm pretty awesome, but I need to make it truth.It's time for a reset. Now..I still go out. I have plenty to blog about there, but that's for another time and bat place. I have started by treating myself the way I would like a significant other to treat me. Hot baths, good dinners,and cuddling on the couch with the kids or the dog. Life is too short to be anything but constantly evolving and happy.