There is nothing pleasant about a divorce. In divorce absolutely no one comes out unscarred. Picking up the pieces of your life after a divorce can be quite challenging. Starting a new relationship after a divorce can be even more so, especially if you choose to take that journey with someone also recently divorced. This was my case in the fall of 2008.
I met Mr. History online through yahoo personals. He was working on his PHD in history; he had many of the same common interests as I did. Good looking, smart, single dad who seemed to be very well rounded. The first mistake was going out on the date with him the day his divorce was final. My divorce had not been finalized yet either but was well on its way. In retrospect I can now see this was a big mistake, but it seemed to make sense at the time. Simple enough, we met for drinks and immediately hit it off. He was smart, sensitive and good looking. The first clue should have been that he wanted to go dutch. LADIES please listen to me.. going dutch is really code talk for you can never expect me to pay for anything and I am a cheap ass!
The relationship progressed rather quickly (as most rebounds do) before you know it, our children have met each other and I was taking both him and his daughter upstate to meet my best friend. This.. was clearly.. a BAD idea. On the ride there and through the weekend I discovered his daughter had many behavioral problems and he soothed her with food. He went grocery shopping with my best friend and allowed her to pay for EVERYTHING without even so much as offering to pay for any of it. He never offered to pay for gas or any of the above. He did not get my friends goofy sense of humor (ok jackass, if you can’t get a discussing story or joke or two and you are that tightly wound up, no thanks). On the ride home his daughter got sick from eating too much junk food. We stopped, she was better, and then the next stop on the road he bought her more cheetos… ARE YOU FREAKIN KIDDING ME???? And as I remember correctly, that was exactly the response given. It was then we both realized, it was time to part ways. As romantically and beautifully as this relationship bloomed, in the matter of a month it spontaneously combusted. And that my dear friends, is what you call a rebound!
I HATED this guy! and to clear up the grocery store issue, it was only a couple hours after arrival and his child had eaten and drank ALL the snacks and juice i just purchased that day for ALL the kids. And also to replace the wine i had bought for him to drink. I had no issue adding 2 more bottles to my cart and paid for nothing. not to mention his child was just younger then mine, and peed herself, refused to clean up, and made a mess of my house, AND broke crap in my kids closet.
ReplyDeleteHa! I was being nice by leaving that stuff out, but you went there.. lol! What astounded me was the fact that he had no problem with the fact this little girl peed herself. This was clearly the case of an overindulged child. Lets not forget the fact that he allowed her to call him by his first name..lord have mercy, I don't even let my kids call my friends by their first name!
ReplyDeletesorry correction, he did not pay for his own 2 new bottles of wine
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