It's been a while since I posted, I thought it was high time for this gem of a story. So it was last summer and I was in the midst of my last derby season. I had bought a membership on match.com so I figured I should use it. Of course I was overwhelmed with the enormous amount of stupid responses, but there was on in particular who would not leave me alone. I was on my way to an away bout and this dude kept texting me non-stop. I tried to give him a blow off but it didn't work. I could read from his profile he was a country boy and lord knows I'm a city girl. The one redeeming quality was that he had a master's degree and seemed fairly intelligent. I thought...what the hell I'll give him a chance. Before we met he came clean and let me know there was something I needed to know about him. I thought to myself 'great....he has dead bodies in his basement or he likes to beat women' no, nothing like that. He told me he had been in a wheelchair for the last 21 years of his life. WHEW...that was it...hell I could handle that.
We had a great first date filled with stimulating intelligent conversation...WOW a guy who could keep up with me intellectually...I was smitten just by that!What followed could best be described as the most twisted roller coaster ride of a relationship I have been on yet. I think he may very well have incorportated a bit of every story on this blog in and of himself. He did things that led me to think this would be a long lasting relationship...for example...like say "I want a long term relationship". He introduced me to his son, our kids got along great and so did we. Problem numero uno...the man was still married and had not finished his divorce. Problem numero dos..dude was in no mental space for a relationship. Problem nuemero tres...I was at this time about to have a hysterectomy and my hormones made me extremely emotional. So what does Mr. Wonderful do the minute things get difficult? Run for the hills. But not before he has taken me to see land that he stated 'Hoped' I would live there with him one day and got me jewelry to boot. We broke up but decided to remain friends. When I had my surgery he charmed the nurses and came to visit. It didn't take long before he decided I was nuts and told me so. I was heartbroken because despite his mental instability, he stole my heart. To add insult to injury he asked for his things back on Christmas day and could not understand why this was grossly inappropriate. I didn't speak to him for 4 months.
Now we are friends again but it doesn't stop there...ohh no my friends..more bags of fun. He dated some girl for quite some time who couldn't even hold a candle to me. He stated what a big mistake he made and how he was sorry for everything as he realized most of what transpired between us was his fault. Sure..I'm not gonna lie..that was pretty damn validating. I missed our friendship...hell...I missed him. We started talking again. Sure enough his dimwitted counterpart forgave him and he forgave her and now...they are back together. He can't seem to fathom why I think he is an idiot for this. First of all...if you admit that you just can't be alone, then you DEFINITELY need to take some time, be alone, and sort your fucking shit out. Second of all, when you tell people you can't bring your son around her family...umm...am I lost here? Is that someone you should really have in your life???? And then he has the audacity to talk about their sex life to me. Hmmmm.....and he wonders why I don't answer his texts and calls so much anymore. It's a sad state of affairs when a young HOT time is more important than an independent, educated, strong single mother WHO...by the way..is WAY cutter than said other cupcake. Oh well...selah. It seems he really enjoys this and thinks he can keep me as a backup. What Meals on wheels dosen't understand is I'm a catch..and I could be hooked up with men with more money and education that he, I however know when it's time for me to take some self reflection. Hope Meals on Wheels has a good time with his new gal, because the Dating Diva never has been nor will be anyone's second choice. It will be sad for Meals on Wheels when one day he finds himself alone, old, and no one to talk to. Pity.
